At the bottom of every one of your fears is simply the fear that you can't handle whatever life may bring you.
If you knew you could handle anything that came your way, what would you possibly have to fear?
"Be careful" carries a double message: "the world is really dangerous out there" ...and... "you won't be able to handle it." What Mom is really saying, of course, is, "If something happens, I won’t be able to handle it.”
Most of us operate within a zone that feels right, outside of which we are uncomfortable. ... for each one of us that zone of comfort is different, but whether we are aware of it or not, all of us - rich or poor, low or high on the totem pole, male or female - make decisions based on the confines of that comfortable space.
They have discovered that security is not having things; it's handling things.
It is important to remember that goals constantly change as you go through life, and you have to keep reassessing them.
The decision you make today might not be the decision you would make five years from now.
[After making a decision] Throw away your picture. We all create expectations of what we would like to happen after a decision is made. The picture in our mind's eye might have served a valuable function in helping to make a decision. But once the decision is made, let the picture go.
After much consideration, I have come to the conclusion that if you haven't made any mistakes lately, you must be doing something wrong.
~ Susan Jeffers, Ph.D. Feel the Fear ... and Do It Anyway
